Dekker's father, psychologically destroyed by the war, offered no
alternative emotional or practical support. Both parents refused to
finance an emergency appendectomy when he was 12; Dekker worked
after school for four years to pay it off. "So I was a self-made
man very early," he explains, tongue firmly in cheek.
Hardship also prompted Dekker's early start on lifelong learning.
"There was no heat in my bedroom, so I spent all my spare time in
the library or the art museum." He read and started keeping a
journal. "So ever since I was a little kid, my companions have been
books and writing."
Formal schooling was another story, though Dekker excelled in his
classes; schoolmates shunned him, and teachers, he says,
systematically sexually abused him "till I was old enough to stand
up to it, about 16." Consequently, lack of family and/or life
partner is the one notable hole in Dekker's otherwise richly
fulfilled life. "I tried a couple of times," he says of two
long-term relationships, "but it made me uncomfortable. I didn't
have the right basis for that. And I felt, if you don't have the
tools to do one thing, try something else you are able to do."
After a 10-year state-sanctioned detour into dentistry, that
ability exploded into an MBA, a simultaneous master's in economics,
and a subsequent spectacular business career. Catalyst for the
change was, once again, hardship: a five-year bout with
near-terminal thyroid cancer. He moved to
La Jolla,
California, for
treatment at the renowned Scripps Clinic, and while there, Dekker
took a lot of walks around town. He noticed "a little shop that was
doing a tryout of this new technology of one-hour photo
development." Dekker contacted his longtime business partner and
friend John Padget, "and he got a machine and we started a shop in
Amsterdam. Then three shops, and a hundred shops - like that." At
160 shops throughout BeNeLux, Dekker sold the chain to Kodak.