3.) Wrong Thinking
It has been theorized that most people usually continue in the traditions, behaviors and the mindsets learned from their own families, without even thinking about it. They are perfectly born to be a product of their surrounding environment, with only a tiny bit of desire or motivation to practice judgment, analyzing why they do what they do. For a lot of younger citizens, not strong enough family bonds, absent or otherwise parents who are just too busy to care, and a lifestyle in which daily interaction between mother and father is far surpassed by the time with others their own age, whether in person, by computer or by phone. This has led to that same old “follower” mentality however all of the examples set by peers. The result is always the same: everyone goes along in order to get along, following the crowd all the way into the next fad, with a care about the consequences. Think for for a moment about choosing your soulmate. The potential mother or father of your own children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren, is one of life’s most crucial decisions. As currently as a couple of generations ago, dating was originally commonly viewed in the West as the first step toward a potential marriage. Dating and courtship once upon a time often involved families who were familiar with one another in a small town or neighborhood. In this day and age, dating can involve nothing more than two people and two computers. Standards have progressively dropped over the decades, but the speed down the slippery slope has moved down a lot and is continuing to slip further down every day.
While some people have met others with sheer success on the internet, one of the issues with most relationships in the 21st century is that they often come about without any definition to them. Years ago most people dated so they could grow long-lasting relationships. It is because most of our relationships begin with sex before they have the chance to evolve into something more solidified, it can be rather frustrating figuring out where exactly that line between the two people can find itself. Are they dating? Or are they just having sex? What the hell is going on? Okay, so, you’re not just having sex, you’re hanging out with each other as well. But are you sure you’re not just friends with benefits?…Are you with each other temporarily or are you officially together? Supposedly, there is now a difference between the two. Exclusivity isn’t always in the deal.
1.) The New Normal
The act of dating has a vast and detailed history. Over the years over in the Western world, traditional dating was in time overtaken by the whole high school “going steady/boyfriend-girlfriend” trend. Those who did not find a romantic soulmate in this way would then often be shoved into the infamous bar and nightclub scene, where they could hope to find someone who may want to hook-up with —meaning anything from kissing to sharing nudes to having sex—which in time could potentially lead to the two people to becoming friends with benefits, boyfriend and girlfriend, or possibly even lead to marriage years down the road. Who knows? But all that we do know is commitment is not promised nowadays in contemporary relationships, and that is just something we’ll all have to with… for now…
Watch the clip below to hear a story of how it was like to be dating in the 50’s and how dating has evolved!